Returning the Favor

Using feminine tactics with male intelligence — partially, naturally, and across multiple environments simultaneously.

Published March 1, 2026 · By Nassar Taleb

This has absolutely nothing to do with the classic "mirroring" or NLP "rapport," nor with the "interaction timer" — where a man replies to messages online at roughly the same interval the woman takes to reply, to calibrate perceived value. No.

Returning the favor is using feminine tactics against them, but with male intelligence. Feminine tactics include, among other things: energetic manipulation, mystical investigation, unconscious baseline control, manufactured frequency, calibrated scarcity, demonstrating value through being rather than doing. What do women do to pursue high-value men? They show up in his environment. They engineer "coincidences." They make things easy without looking desperate. They leave openings without forcing them. They pull back attention after giving a sample. They don't ask for a date — they make it easy for the invitation to feel like his idea. They don't declare interest — they signal availability.

Returning the favor means applying those feminine tactics, but partially — never fully, because if you do everything, it becomes submission, you become soft. The art is doing just enough, naturally, with multiple women at the same time and in multiple places, to reduce friction until you want to — if you want to — extend an invitation.

Is this "kind"? Yes. Is it also ironic? Yes. But above all, it's balance. Women recognize their own tactics being used on them — and they're furious when it's done well, because it means you understand the game at a level no ordinary man reaches. And that's a point for you. Her imagination goes wild. And imagination is the gateway to passion.

Just know that the spiritual warfare, my friend, will come hard and from every direction. Get ready.

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