Paying the Price for Someone Else’s Damage

Every person you meet today is the result of the choices they've made up to this point. Good choices, good future. Bad choices, evident future suffering. If you don't know an attractive woman's past, you will pay the price for her damage — for the bad choices she made before you showed up.

An attractive woman is, generally speaking, an arsenal of past bad decisions. And guess what the Achilles' heel of any person is? Sex, obviously. Abortion is damage. HIV is damage. Depression is damage. Bipolar disorder is damage. Other STIs are damage. Inability to pair bond is damage — the neurological capacity to form lasting attachments diminishes with a high number of partners. She might seem perfectly healthy right now, but not long after you two get serious, the bill arrives. And the one paying it is you, Blue Pill.

"High-maintenance woman," my friend, is definitely not just about money. It's about dealing with sexual expectations calibrated by experiences you can't or won't replicate. With implicit or explicit comparisons to previous men. With not knowing if the kid is yours. With emotional damage that shows up as coldness, hypervigilance, or self-sabotage of intimacy.

The point isn't to be angry at someone who "floored their Ferrari" — flooring a machine like that is irresistible, almost nobody holds back. The point is that you shouldn't have to pay for the serious damage caused by someone else's behavior. The most important thing, always, is to avoid paying a price higher than what something is worth. Everything else is secondary.